The choices we make in life can make or break us. However, some people make choices out of selfish reasons; not knowing their actions at the present time will have repercussions in the future. We are told not to worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow is not promised. That could be very well true. However, what if tomorrow is promised; how would you reexamine yesterday? What would you do differently … differently today? How would you prepare for tomorrow?
We are told to live for today, however, the question is—how many people live for “today?” If you are living for “today” at the end of the day, could you say you took care of all of your responsibilities? Each day has a purpose; each day creates a memory, and each day should be precious.
Ask yourself—did you put your best foot forward? Or did you point fingers at everyone else instead of focusing on what you need to improve? The important question is: at the end of each day, are you satisfied with the decisions you’ve made?
Dear Fathers of the Fatherless Children:
Do you know your sons and daughters are AMAZING? They are full of life and they are truly a blessing. Your sons and daughters need you in their lives. Fathers of the fatherless children, your sons and daughters crave your presence and your support. They want you in their lives more than you will ever know.
Fathers of the fatherless children, open your eyes and know your presence is very critical. Be your son’s hero and let him know he can conquer the world. Be your daughter’s first knight in shining armor. Be a part of your son’s and daughter’s success instead of their pain.
Charlena Jackson, B.S., M.S., M.H.A. is a professor at a university in Georgia. She is a prolific writer and has published several books No Cross, No Crown: Trust God Through the Battle, No Cross, No Crown: Trust God Through the Battle 2nd edition, Teachers Just Don’t Understand Bullying Hurts, I’m Speaking Up but You’re Not Listening, I’m Speaking up but You’re Not Listening 2nd edition, A Woman’s Love is Never Good Enough, A Woman’s Love is Never Good Enough 2nd edition, Dear Fathers of the Fatherless Children, Dying on the Inside and Suffocating on the Outside, Unapologetic for My Flaws and All, and Unapologetic for My Flaws and All 2nd edition—her positive, dedicated and determined attitude has encouraged many people to put up a good fight for justice and to be treated with respect. She is currently working on her Ph.D. in Healthcare Administration. Charlena is a much-loved inspirational speaker. She loves to read, roller skate, cycle, write, and travel.
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I read sample chapters of this book on the author’s web site. And I loved it! I ordered the book and I am so happy I did. Dear Fathers of the Fatherless Children is so healing. This book healed my wounds. This book was/is such a blessing! I needed to read every word in this book! I thank the author so much. My dad saw me as dead weight. I guess I was a burden or baggage. I have my daddy’s eyes, I have his complexion, I look just like him, but he acts like I do not matter. He doesn’t show me any love or act like he cares who so ever. I cried so many tears because I wanted my dad’s love. I took it out on everyone because he wasn’t in my life. He was in and out, in and out, yet, he blamed my mom for everything. He never ever took the blame for nothing. My dad and I look alike, but I do not act anything like him. As the author says, He was a ‘revolving door’ father. I waited around for my dad, but I am not waiting around for his love anymore. He can keep it. He uses to be the reason why I spaz out. I am not going to give him power over me anymore. My heart was cold, but now, I know how to laugh. The sadness and yearning for my dad’s bridge have burned down. I have the courage now to move forward. I want my dad to know I matter. I matter dad, I matter.
Life sucks when you do not have a father in your life. My father abandoned me when I was a kid. I worked with an organization and help children whose fathers abandon them as well because I understand their pain, I understand how they feel when they feel like they are neglected. I ordered this book for the single mothers whose children are in my group because I want them to read that finally, someone understands what they are going through. Dear Father of the Fatherless Children isn’t a ‘point the finger’ book, it isn’t a ‘blame’ book. It is a book that needs to be read because it opens our eyes to what is really going on in the world today. To be honest, this book helped me heal, and he cures the open wounds, and now I have closure.
I am a huge fan of Charlena E. Jackson, I read her book No Cross No Crown Trust God Through the Battle 2nd edition, and I followed her on Twitter. Every time she released a book I made sure I purchased it. Dear Fathers of the Fatherless Children is such a wonderful book! It is deep, realistic, and it goes into debt of what the father of the fatherless children need to know. I didn’t have my father in my life and this book helped me to love myself to know it wasn’t my fault. I always thought that it was my fault that my dad wasn’t in my life. This book also helped me to forgive. Must-read and must have.
Dear Fathers of The Fatherless Children is such a good book! I have my father in my life, and I know who he is, but it’s like he isn’t my dad because he is ALWAYS busy. He never put his children first, he never spends time with us, he is always on the go. He always says the bills are not going to pay for themselves. That is true, but DAD we want some or just a little bit of your time. I do not know which is worse, having a dad in your life who you see EVERY DAY who ignores you or a dad you are not in your life and ignores you. Dear Fathers of the Fatherless Children in my case Dear Father who are in your children’s lives, but ignore us, (as the author says, “be a part of our success instead of our pain” Dad, I have a purpose, here.
This author Charlena E. Jackson writes amazing books! She writes books that are relatable and that are so true! I order her books all except one. I am going to follow the leads of some of the reviews that I read so far. Which is smart! I noticed they wrote one review and copied and posted it on all of the books they’ve read. Smart! Therefore, I am going to be a copy cat lol!
1. In Love with Blindfolds On, well, I was reading my story because I lost my way because I was in an abusive relationship as well. Every day we were physically fighting, and it was hell every single day. Just like Ryder, I did not know what to do. I thought I could change a person who didn’t want to be saved. The only person who changed was me. I tried to prove myself to my partner, but what for? what I did wasn’t enough. I wasn’t enough.
2. Dying on the Inside and Suffocating on the Outside was my story too because while I was in my abusive relationship I had an eating disorder because I wanted to stay small and slim for my partner. That was easy, but hard at the same time because I was gaining and losing weight. I have my partner all of me and I never found me again. I am a new person. I got tired of having my partner making me feel worthless. I found it!
3. Unapologetic For my Flaws and All 2nd edition is a GIRL POWER book! I was in an abusive relationship, but I wasn’t like Bree, I didn’t know my worth, well Bree kept going back, but she finally left. Me, I stayed for years. Bree was like forget this crap! I loved how her family was close. I loved Loved how she was in Early College, I AM TOO LOL! I felt like after I read that part, Bree working, in early college, BF problems, and have a BFF that is close to her and her family, I felt like I was reading about my life. Ha! After my BFF read Unapologetic she enrolled in Early College! I loved the GIRL EMPOWERMENT! LIFE CHANGING EVENTS FOR Young Women! There is also a HUGE situation that happened, but you have to read it! It was good too! ALL I can say is I stand with Breana the BRAVE!
4. Teachers Just Don’t Understand Bullying Hurts 2nd ed, I read it with my baby sister, and it was a good book! I really loved it! It was very emotional, funny, and touching. People bullying hurts! STOP BULLYING! Teachers you all NEED to listen! Parents need to LISTEN too. BULLYING is a SERIOUS MATTER!
5. A Woman’s Love Is Never Good ENOUGH 2nd Ed is a REALLY GOOD BOOK! I was like Preach Charlena E. Jackson. Every girl and woman need that book! I am not going to give anything away, but it is a REAL good book for women! My mom calls this book, Self-care, self-love! My momma always says Y.O.U. She says the author says Y.O.U means You Over Unhappiness! Now, that’s creative! What is so funny my daddy read the book, and had changed for the better! He says he understands women now! Cool beans daddy!
6. Dear Father of the Fatherless Children, as the author says, where are you? I am so happy I have my daddy in my life! However, my BFF dad isn’t in her life and I feel bad for her because this book is so emotional. Dad, come on, do your part! I am a daddy’s little girl! Dad be apart of your kids’ life it does make a difference. Thanks, daddy for being in my life! You’re the man!
7. I’m Speaking Up but You’re NOT listening 2nd ed is such a GOOOOOOD book! My parents and siblings read this book together, and my parents understood a LOT better what we as kids go through, thanks Charlena E. Jackson!
I didn’t read No Cross No Crown Trust God Through the Battle 2nd ed because I am not a religious person, but I am going to give it 5 stars because this author hasn’t missed a beat!
8. I CANNOT wait until she releases The Stars Choose Our Lovers and IF I Lost Myself, I Lost IT All. The author gave us a tease!!
Oh, note: If you all want a sample of chapters before you buy the book. Go to the author’s website she got a couple of them and Wattpad. Once you read the sample chapters you are going to want to know what happened next!
I thought it was very thoughtful of her to post some sample chapters on each site! Ha! she knew what she was doing!
I AM A FAN FOR LIFE!
I found I’m Speaking Up But You’re Not Listening 2nd ed in a Little Libray in my neighborhood. I really enjoyed the read. It brought my children and I closer. We, as parents need to talk to our children because our children’s voice matters. We need to listen as well because our children have their issues too. I loved each chapter because they spoke loudly to me and I made sure I had an understanding of the message. If we do not listen we will never know. I just found this site, but I inbox Charlena E. Jackson on Twitter and left her a message. It felt special because she sent me a message in return, and re-tweeted the messages I sent her. She seems so down to earth! I was telling her that she changed my daughter’s life for the better, as a matter of fact, she saved my baby life because she was in a violent relationship and I didn’t even know, There were many books I found that Charlena E. Jackson has written in the Little Library. A couple I purchased. I thought it was pretty awesome that she took the time to put her books in the Little Libraries. Teachers Just Don’t Understand Bullying Hurts 2nd, was a blessing to my son because he was an Emmanuel. I do not know how many times, I had to fight for my baby. Nearly every single day he was being bullied, but his teachers didn’t care. I agree with Charlena E. Jackson, when my son started to take up for himself, he got in trouble, however, the teachers never seem over the course of the years when my son was being bullied or maybe they didn’t care that my child was being bullied. It was too much to bear because my son was unhappy. I took him out of school and homeschooled him. Finally, he had peace. The system is broken and they just don’t care about our children. I read Dear Fathers of the Fatherless Children, and she spoke the truth, it wasn’t any bashing going on, but she sure didn’t sugar coat anything. Every parent needs to read it, and I agree with the reviewers on other sites, it needs to be in the father’s parenting classes. Unapologetic For My Flaws and All 2nd ed was an amazing read! I loved how the main character has a family (a mother and a father who are successful! We have too many books speaking down on the black family household, not all black families live in poverty) I also loved how Breana the main character is in high school and early college! I loved how she had a plan! Like other teenagers, she had her boy problems, but I loved how Charlena E. Jackson made this young lady into someone special! Our girls need to read a book such as this to empower them, and for them to know they can fly and do anything they put their mind to! I also like how Breana took a stand for her rights and justice! A Woman’s Love is Never Good Enough 2nd ed is exactly how I felt. I read the entire book in one day! Charlena E. Jackson wrote about how most women, if not all feel. We need to give ourselves some me time. We need to stop trying to save the world and do it all because after all, we cannot do it all. The book that saved my daughter’s life is In Love with Blindfolds On, I never knew she was in a violent relationship, She always seemed so happy, but after she read the book and we read it together she told me everything she was going through. No Cross No Crown Trust God Through The battle 2nd edition was a blessing and right on time! It is such an inspiring book! I am in the process of reading Dying on the Outside and Suffoercating on the Inside right now. One thing I noticed about Charlena E. Jackson’s books is that all of them have a quote before each chapter! Those quotes are encouraging, and inspirational! I hope Charlena E> Jackson read her site, if so, please know, Charlena E. Jackson, you are changing lives for the better. Let God keep using you. I know I told you this yesterday on Twitter, but I want to say thank you again. You are a blessing and an angel that is heaven-sent. Jessica Marie
Dear Fathers of the Fatherless Children, I do not understand how you feel like it is okay to just leave and live life. Or be and as the author says “revolving door” father. It’s either you in or out! The author said it best, It is ALL OR NONE! How selfish of you all to just not give a care. I love this quote from the author, “Father of the fatherless son, you are like a thief in the night because you robbed your son’s and daughter’s peace.” You all are a thief because you all take from us—your children who need you. My father left when I was young, and I am still trying to live with it. It is hard to forgive, but after reading Dear Fathers of the Fatherless Children, I realized I am hurting myself and I have to let go and heal. My father’s absence is drowning me and now it is time for me to come up for air and swim to shore. I have given him too much of my time and it is time for me to live. People act like it is a crime for a woman to put herself first. I am everyone’s light, but I need to be the light for myself. I need to be the light on my shoulder.
My dad is in my life. But after reading this book for a research paper (I used it as a reference) I really feel bad for mothers who are single parents. I feel bad for little girls, little boys, grown men, and grown women who never had a dad or had a part-time dad in their life. After I read this book it made me think differently about who I date, because I do not want to be stuck with being a single mother. It made me realize how we ‘think’ we love someone, but when it doesn’t work it is a disaster and innocent children suffer. I am thinking twice before I become serious with someone.
Good good book. It is sad that many young people go through their life without having a dad. Must read this book for sure the stories had me in tears and I can say this book will bring out your emotions.
Wow! Dear Fathers of The Fatherless Children is an amazing book that needs to be in all self-help fathers’ classes. It would help fathers who are not in their children’s lives to see what they are missing out on. I have seen time and time again fathers playing the blame game and their families never tell the fathers their wrong. However, they fueling the father’s neglect and placed blame on the single mother. I have seen time and time again part-time as the author says revolving doors fathers that are not acceptable. I love every chapter! Truth hurts and it needs to be said! Very resourceful book!
When I was done reading the book I felt like a relief because it helped me fix my problems and the relationship that I had. I really love the cover and the whole novel. It speaks a lot of volume.
Truthful book, very entertaining, and GREAT COVER
This is a great book, it teaches father development and how to be included in your child life. Great book.
This book is truth, outspoken, and very informative. I wanted to find a book related to parenting because I am a mother. Then I found Charlena e. Jackson, and found her website. I found Dear fathers of the fatherless children on https://charlenaejackson.wixsite.com/website. When I ordered and read this book, It was very deep and had a great message about supportive relationships. I worried about being a parent because I didn’t think that I couldn’t support my child. But when I read this book. It gave great advice to be a greater parent and how a parent should provide for their children. Charlena E. Jackson helped me become the parent I am. I am very thankful to God for giving me this book. I would highly recommend this book for people who need parenting support.
“Dear Fathers of the Fatherless Children, As our sons grow into men; we teach our sons not to be like you. They know they are loved, wanted, handsome, and supported. We raise them to respect women and to get an education. Some will make us proud, and some will disappoint; however, as Chief Guardians, we can sleep at night and say that for eighteen years, we did the best we could do alone. As little girls grow into women, we, as Chief Guardians teach them not to be like you. We school them to not make the same mistakes we made in choosing the wrong men. We raised our daughters to know they are queens and to not accept anything less than that. Our daughters know, they are loved, beautiful wanted, and supported. Our daughters know they can do whatever they set their minds to do.”
First, I want to say, that I am a fan of Charlena E. Jackson. When she releases a book I truly believe that I am one of the first, if not the first to read it. ALL of her books I can relate to, and I am going to take time to review all of her books:
Pinwheels and Dandelions is such a great book! I was engulfed in each page because it is a page-turner! I too was in foster care, but I stayed in it until I was thrown out. Ember, went through a lot and I can very much so relate to her. I am happy someone finally wrote the truth about how the world of foster care. Some kids are lucky and sadly some of us or not. I wish I had this book when ‘shipped’ to each home as if I was a nobody.
Dying on the Inside and Suffocating on the Outside and how I always felt, when I was in foster care I had an eating disorder, as a matter of fact, I had an eating disorder all my life because I wanted to die and I didn’t care to live life anymore. I loved how the author touched gently on the sensitive topic because not too many people want to talk about the issue. Oh and if you look closely at the book cover, you will see encouraging words on the cover! That’s super cool!
In Love with Blindfold On, well the title alone and the images speak for themselves. I was in all kinds of bad relationships that I couldn’t ever seem to shake. However, I am still here. Poor, Ryder, and as I said to myself poor, Gabby.
Teacher Just Don’t Understand Bullying Hurts 2nd, is how and what I went through every single day! My teachers didn’t care and I believe there are small fractions of teachers who care, very small extremely small window. All children and teachers, oh and parents need to read this book out loud to their children/teachers.
That brings me to I’m Speaking Up but You’re Not Listening 2nd, Again, all parents and teachers need to read this book as well with their children and students. I loved the Chapter What About Us, so many young kids, teens, and now young adults like me always wonder what about us! Yes, Our voices deserve to be heard as well.
The Stars Choose Our Lovers is such a loving book! I love how the author tells the story of how so many of us who are LGBTQ are treated. I am a lesbian and sometimes, I am not. It depends. However, I have a right to be whomever I want to be and date whoever I want to date. Right? We are told we can love freely, but once we do we are judged for who we love. It is so hard to spread hate. Why is that? However, you would think kindness and love would be easier to spread.
Dear Father of the Fatherless Children, as the author bluntly put it, where are you? I asked that question time and time again, but I never received an answer. My mother struggled to put food on the table, she did the best she could do. My father (I am giving him too much credit.) My DNA donor came in and out of our lives, made like hard for my mom, and little did he know for his kids as well. We suffered because of what we lacked and he wasn’t willing to help. The only thing he did was point fingers at everyone instead of himself. He paid child support for it was only 119.00 a month. He asked as if that was enough. It wasn’t enough for gas to take us to school for the week. I wonder why the government spits in women and children’s faces. Yet, the deadbeat dads are not held accountable for anything.
A Woman’s Love is Never Good Enough 2nd edition, that is a good book! I wish my mom was here to read it. She would have loved it. My mom was under so much stress she died from a heart attack and I was put in the system. What I learned from a Woman’s Love is Never Good Enough 2nd edition is a young girl/woman should always love herself first. A woman shouldn’t ever tear herself down to make a man feels like he is a man.
This brings me to, Unapologetic for My Flaws and All 2nd edition. I loved that book dearly because it teaches young girls to stand up for themselves. I too was in early college. School is what I focused on the most. School was all that I had to want to live.
I bought My Personally Brings Out The Best in Me Quotes and Journal book, boy oh boy, I wish I had that book growing up! I am happy I have it down because I write down my feels. It is good to write down your feelings.
I am going to end on a good note with the book that the author wrote that saved my life and that book was No Cross No Crown Trust God Through the Battle 2nd edition. When I read this book, I instantly felt like I wasn’t alone. The author went through a lot of struggles like my mom, however, I am so happy the author made it through to tell her story. This book made me believe that there is a God. All this time I was walking around hating God, but after reading this book I realized I have a testimony to write just as the author did.
In my early 20s, after reading all of the author’s work thus far I decided to enroll in college. I look up to the author. Although I do not know her, I look up to her because, if she made it, I know that I can do it!
Gabby
The message you would receive from this book is, you got to let go, you have to surrender, and you have to heal, because that’s the only way you can heal!
Wow, I totally agree. Some father-figures aren’t included in their children’s lives. It hurts because, for me, I never go to know my father. He was a junkie, he left me when I was 5 months, and he never even returned. people like that don’t have the guts, the strength, the courage to be in their children’s lives. Support them, be there with them, and protect them. Sadly fathers like that are weak, unsettle, and unhappy with their lives. They are miserable and paying for what they deserve. This is a truthful book that you should read right now. I most definitely recommend this book for fatherless people who don’t be in their families’ (children’s) lives. Shame on you, and good for the father who is in their children’s lives. 5 stars all the way, must read right now, It is worth the purchase.
Outstanding!
Parenting is really important because it helps you be a better person. Most parents aren’t included in their child’s life. Children shouldn’t feel alone, feel not-wanted, or even feel unwelcomed. Kids need father-figures in their lives, some fathers need to wake up and be a MAN, be the person who is their children’s hero, be their kid’s shell, protector, caregiver, and hero. Dear fatherless children, you deserve so much more.
Great book for parenting, it would really help someone be a better parent and succeed in life!