A 2017 National Book Award for Young People’s Literature Finalist When Nina Faye was fourteen, her mother told her there was no such thing as unconditional love. Nina believed her. Now she’ll do anything for the boy she loves, to prove she’s worthy of him. But when he breaks up with her, Nina is lost. What is she if not a girlfriend? What is she made of? Broken-hearted, Nina tries to figure out … figure out what the conditions of love are.
“Finally, finally, a book that is fully girl, with all of the gore and grace of growing up female exposed.” –Carrie Mesrobian, author of the William C. Morris finalist, Sex & Violence
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Nina Faye grew up in a household of absent parents. The rare moments her mother was around, she taught Nina that unconditional love doesn’t exist. Nina was instructed to maintain her beauty because there would be no love without it and that the key to keeping love was sex. Of course, her mother also told her that one day she might stop loving Nina.
This is one of those books that should be included in high school. It would also be the book many parents would protest because it includes sex. This doesn’t romanticize teenage relationships; it tells the truth. How do children learn about love and sex? What happens when the influences around them are all they have to base a relationship off of? This is what Nina faces. Growing up with parents who barely paid attention to her, the only way Nina knows how to function in a relationship is by what her mother has told her. She takes her mother’s advice to heart, not realizing her mother was an unhappy woman in her relationship. Not realizing that when her mother spoke about relationships, it was to vent about how hers was broken. Words have power. Children are always listening and learning from what happens around them.
When Nina falls for a boy, she changes her entire life to fit around his. She loses herself in the relationship and only surfaces long enough to go to work. She never once thinks about her own wants or needs. She will make choices people aren’t happy with, but she also makes choices that many of us have made when we were young. Regardless if we want to admit it or not. And when Nina loses him, she is left adrift, lost and confused as to what she should do.
This is Nina’s journey through love and loss. At just 16 she will learn how to make tough decisions and live with the consequences of her actions. She will lose everything and have to relearn what it means to be herself and what love really is.
Powerful. Brutally honest. Necessary. I will be thinking about this book for a very long time.
10/10
this book changed how i looked at things, somehow. its hard to explain it. this book is messy and gross and heartbreaking and beautiful. thats all i can say about it.
keywords: unconditional love, breakups, coming of age, abuse, heartbreak, secrets
I had a little trouble getting into this book. I like the idea of it, I like what the author is trying to say, but it came across very disjointed and it was hard to tell where things were going because the narrator kept jumping back and forth and every which way. There was also the interludes between chapters and until it gets explained why those are happening, it is very confusing and distracting. Once I got to the last couple of chapters, everything finally started to come together and make more sense, but I feel like the story would have had more impact, for me, if there was more fluidity to the telling of it. There are also some triggers to watch out for, animal abuse/death and the topic of abortion.