#1 New York Times BestsellerOver 1 million copies soldIn this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be “positive” all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. “F**k positivity,” Mark Manson says. “Let’s be honest, shit … life. “F**k positivity,” Mark Manson says. “Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it.” In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.
Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—“not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault.” Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.
There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.
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SO helpful! This book was recommended to me by someone who knows very well that I needed to hear it, and you just might need to hear it too: we care too much. About all the wrong things. And it leads to a disappointing life. But Manson helps walk you through a refreshing new way of approaching responsibility, failure, happiness, and success. I’ll be reorienting my default postures for a while, based on this book’s recommendations.
I think as women, we frequently care about the wrong thing–like other people’s opinions. This is a great book with strategies for staying in your lane. If you can’t already tell by the title, profanity is sprinkled generously throughout the book.
A little much when you first start-how many times can one use the word fuck and still have effect? Got much meaty as you got about mid way thru and really resonated with me
must read book for stop listening someone’s opinions about us that don’t really matter and important, maybe that’s what being adult
Many people think this book is something sarcastic and narcissistic but the tone of the book is too further the point of the book. Everything the author says is very accurate and actually helped me quite a lot. I enjoyed laughing at the hard truthfulness of this book. People say it’s not good for a self-help book but in truth how many people have actually gotten through depression by reading “YOU SHOULD LIVE YOU’RE WORTH IT.” On some random online post of a person they barely even know if you don’t know the answer It’s not very many. The author’s attitude definitely leaves something to be desired but isn’t the whole thing TO NOT GIVE AN F? We shouldn’t have to care how rude he is or how great his life is. He’s giving straight up non sugar coated advice coming from his own personal experiences so of course people will disagree with his point of view. I personally am obsessed with his sarcastic writing that goes along with the title I mean what do you expect to get? I see how this is New York’s best selling cause man it’s awesome.
I love this book. The title caught my eye, and the content kept my attention. Mark Manson is both witty and insightful when explaining the subtle art of not giving a fu**.
Comically, I felt like the author was shaking me and yelling, “Wake the hell up!”. I’m almost 50 and have tried to “keep the peace” with family and friends all my life. Seriously? What have I missed out on all my life? I missed out on my REAL life! This book is a slap in the face! Loved it!!
Loved this book!
No BS, with a hint of funny.
I actually could not finish this book because of the excess cursing. Yes. I know it’s in the title but the cursing inside was ridiculous. So I can not recommend it.
Stupid, but I gave a f*ck to give it the review it deserved!
What started out as a good self help book, quickly turned into the same thing being said over and over. I’m not sure how to write this review so I’m going to split it into pros and cons.
Pros-
This book had several quotes that I really enjoyed. I’m going to list a few of my favorites here.
* a book about moving lightly despite your heavy burdens. I was drawn in quickly with this quote.
*resting easier with your greatest fears. Umm, yes please!
*this book won’t teach you how to gain or achieve but rather how to lose and let go. Okay, I have issues with letting go so I’m on board.
*pain and loss are inevitable and we should let go in trying to resist them. Basically, bad things are going to happen to everyone. If we try to live where we never feel pain, are we really living?
*we don’t always control what happens to us, but we always control how we interpret what happens to us, as well as how we respond. I guess deep down, that’s true. A bit of a simplification though.
*animals don’t sit around wanting longer fins or worrying what others think about them. this is very true! I never thought about it like that before.
Cons:
One minute it’s all about our choices that affect life and the next it’s well everything is out of your control so just roll with it, that’s life.
Repeating the same thing over and over, just reworded throughout the entire story.
I hate how the narrator used different voices and accents when referring to what a certain person said. It felt disrespectful at times.
Some of the stories/examples were quite crass and shocking.
I felt the amount of cussing was unnecessary. It’s like he wanted us to think he was “cool” or something.
Overall, I liked some portions of this story in that we only have so much we can care about. If we continually try to care about everything, we’ll only harm ourselves. We would be in a constant state of worry and anxiety. So I’m taking the positives from this book on that. However, for probably 50-60% of this book…. I just wanted it to end. The repetition and blasé attitude really ruined it for me.
It is not the sort of book I would have bought, but my loving daughter gave it to me (she is a psychologist). I started reluctantly, with no expectations. I chuckled and laughed my way through the pages, such an easy-going, enjoyable read. I was astounded that such a young man, could have acquired so much common sense and wisdom, and was able to share all of this with such clarity….an astounding depth of soul. Take responsibility for your life, carefully examine/reassess your values and a host of other life-changing critically important subjects, which old and young will greatly benefit from reassessing from time to time. This book flows with interesting perspectives right up to the last page. Thanks Mark. I will certainly be recommending it to many of my patients.
i thuink it is worth a try reading this book,give u many insights
Mark Manson shares the importance in creating choice in what we choose to react to. The author writes people with strong boundaries understand that a healthy relationship is not about controlling one another’s emotions but rather each person supporting the other in their individual growth.Rejection is an important life skill. The writer quotes the poet Charles Bukowski who wrote We are all going to die all of us what a circus That alone should make us love one another,but it doesn’t We are terrorized and flattened by lifes trivialities we are eaten up by nothing Ultimately the author lets us decide are we nourished by our relationships or torn apart by them The decision is ours alone.
I absolutely loved it!
Everyone should read this book it shows the truth in front of your eye. This book has changed my life. You should have the courage to endure the truth
I like story of book
I like this book for the title alone. It definitely comes from a place of white male entitlement, but it’s well-intentioned and there are a few gems to pick out if you’re looking — my favorite being redefining what success means so you’re not tied to outcomes you can’t control.
I am a sucker for self help books full of f-bombs so it doesn’t get much better than this.