Award-winning clinical psychologist and TV personality Dr. Judy Ho helps you stop the cycle of self-sabotage, clear a path to lasting happiness, and start living your best life in this a must-have guide perfect for fans of You Are a Badass, Unf*ck Yourself, and How to Stop Feeling Like Sh*t.
Have you ever had a deadline for a big work project, only to find yourself down to the wire because … a big work project, only to find yourself down to the wire because you spent too much time on social media? Or gotten excited about meeting someone new, only to convince yourself he isn’t really interested? How many Januarys have you resolved that this is the year you’re finally going to lose the weight, only to abandon your diet in just a few weeks? If these scenarios sound familiar, you are stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage.
At one point or another, we’ve all done something that undermines our best interests and intentions. Even the most successful people get in their own way—often without realizing it. In Stop Self-Sabotage, licensed clinical psychologist, tenured professor, and television personality Dr. Judy Ho takes a fresh look at self-sabotage to help us answer two vital questions: Why do we do it? How do we stop?
Combining therapeutically proven strategies with practical tools and self-assessments, Dr. Judy teaches you how to identify your triggers, modify your thoughts and behaviors, find your true motivation, and unlock your willpower to stop this vicious cycle in its tracks. Practical and transformative, Stop Self-Sabotage is your ultimate guide to jumpstart lasting, positive change and start living the life you want.
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I don’t know if you feel this way, but I am most definitely my own worst critic. My mantra lately is that I need to be as kind and understanding to myself as I am to my friends. I’m not there yet.
So when I had the opportunity to read this book, I thought it would be a good choice. I know what I’m supposed to do. Believe me, I know the principles and strategies. But carrying them out in the day-to-day? I need reminders and practice, so this book is perfect for that.
There are enlightening self-assessments included to help with understanding and starting points. It’s chock full of practical strategies. I read these types of books a few times a year and I’m picky about practical utility. This one is most definitely practical.
Dr. Ho helps you figure out the “why” so you can stop undermining yourself more easily. All in all, it’s a well-written, insightful, supportive read, and I’m grateful to have it on myself so I can refer back to it when I need some prompts and reminders again.
I received a complimentary copy. All opinions are my own.
Have you ever gotten yourself into trouble by not paying your bills on time? Failed at a diet AGAIN? Struggled to open up in a relationship? Almost missed a work deadline because you couldn’t stop checking social media?
These are all examples of ways that we self-sabotage. In Dr. Judy Ho’s new book, Stop Self-Sabotage: Six Steps to Unlock Your True Motivation, Harness Your Willpower, and Get Out of Your Own Way, you’ll learn why we do these things, follow exercises to dig into your personal triggers, and practice ways to finally stop the cycle of self-sabotage.
If you are anything like me, you’ll want to rush in, skip the intro, and flip pages to the end to find the magic cure for this behavior. Well, I hate to spoil it, but there is no magic cure. However, I did follow the exercises and complete the charts as I went, and I’ll tell you that it will take work to change my behavior, but I’ve already seen positive changes through my efforts.
Actually, my favorite part of the book was learning about the primary motivations behind self-sabotage. I read through them all and I initially felt hopeless. I kept thinking “oh no, I do all of these!” But actually after I did the exercise to diagnose behavioral markers, I found that two were much stronger motivators of my self-sabotage, and the others I barely scored on at all.
This is the importance of reading this book all of the way through. It’s easy to skim and think—ok, I’ve got this. Fear? Check! Stop being afraid? That must be the key! But actually the reason we are in these cycles of self-sabotage is that we don’t really have good insight into why we are doing it or how to stop it. I thought I knew what my triggers were, but when I worked through this book I realized that I wasn’t focusing on the right thing.
I also broke this book into chunks when I read it. I started slow, with the exercises around diagnosing and learning to note when I’m falling into my self-sabotage triggers. Then, as I got more comfortable recognizing the patterns, I began the more specific exercises designed to help me change my behaviors and thought patterns. I kept a notebook for mine, but you could also write directly in your book.
I recommend this to even those who think they don’t struggle with self-sabotage. Often we don’t realize how we are sabotaging ourselves! We think it is just the way we are wired, or we blame other things (e.g., my coworkers were being too chatty so that is why I got behind). But the truth is, we are in control of our own behaviors and we can stop these cycles with patience and discipline.
Thank you to Suzy for my chance to be on the tour!
Linda’s Book Obsession Review of “Stop Self-Sabotage” by Dr. Judy Ho, PhD, Harper Wave, 8/2019 Part of Suzy Approved Book Tours
Dr. Judy Ho, Author of “Stop Self- Sabotage” has written a wealth of intense information about sabotage and you. First of all, Dr. Judy Ho describes what sabotage is, and then how to deal with it. This book is crammed with a tremendous amount of information and charts. I personally don’t like writing in my books, so you are able to copy the charts. The author suggests the importance of a Journal and pen and pencil. While I was reading I constantly was taking notes, but that is my style of doing things. The Genres for this Book is Self-Help and Non-Fiction. This is not an easy read, and there is not a miracle cure for stopping to sabotage yourself.
There are some tests for you to figure out your triggers for sabotage, and there are ways that the author provides charts, case studies, and other doctor’s material. Basically, you have to own your behavior, and you can follow certain mental exercises, and plans that you have to work on. Changing your behavior takes time. I found this book to be interesting and was interested in some of the tests that I took. I would recommend this for readers interested in “Stopping Self-Sabotage” and looking to live a more productive life.
The rabbit hole of self-sabotage is treacherous… Stop Self-Sabotage provides a winning blend of insight, compassion, and practical advice. Ho’s writing is lively and compelling, and loaded with useful techniques. This is without a doubt the finest book on self-sabotage in the field!
Stop Self-Sabotage is the playbook for eliminating behaviors that interfere with the life that you deserve. Dr. Judy Ho guides the reader with practical action-oriented guidance that lead to long lasting fulfillment and happiness. This book is essential to those who desire lasting change.
Dr Judy writes a very easy reading psychological book for all levels of insight. I was very impressed with the valuable insights and practical tips for healing ingrained self-defeating habits. Highly recommend
I am so happy that Dr. Judy Ho has developed this book to shine a light on how often we self-sabotage so many areas of our lives. Dr. Ho’s thought provoking and thorough exercises shine awareness to what influenced our self- sabotaging behavior and guides us on how we can empower ourselves to stop.
I am a Psychotherapist who has been in private practice for over 15 years and so many of the examples Dr. Ho has in this book are so similar to the people I see daily. I really like the 4 elements of L.I.F.E and how it helps identify many of the reasons on how we began self-sabotaging and continue doing it without our knowledge.
I personally love the explanations and exercises and wish there had been such a practical book as “Stop Self-Sabotage” when I was in therapy years ago dealing with my internalized negative beliefs, fears, and need to control that resulted in my self-sabotaging numerous things in my life. As I began to read the book, it was real eye opener for me to see that lately I have fallen into these old thoughts and behaviors, and I challenged myself to look at myself. I have been doing the exercises in this book and taking my time as she suggests so I can really set the foundation for change. Those childhood internalized beliefs can really sneak up on one especially in challenging times.
This is defiantly a book I am referring to my clients. So many come to my office with so many triggers, distorted thinking, fears, low self-esteem, etc., and once they have an understanding of the root of their self-sabotaging behavior they begin to do the work to change. This book reinforces that one can transform ourselves positively if we get out of our way, be honest with ourselves, and do the hard work. Dr. Judy Ho has done the scientifically proven work for us by giving us the six steps in this great book, nothing is easy, now you have to follow the exercises that take thought and time… but I am telling you as a person who is always wanting to better myself, and as a therapist that is passionate to experience the happiness of my clients…this is a must read book. It’s a book one can refer back to for years to keep us in check.
Stop being your own worst enemy and read this book!! I know I have always been my own…… this book will definitely help you change your mindset and keep working to better yourself with extra exercises. When I question myself I will go back and reread this book! One of the BEST self-help books I have ever read! Thank you so much to Suzy Approved Book Tours and to Judy Ho for allowing me to be apart of this tour.
This is an awesome book to read if you’re interested in self-development . Dr. Judy’s book can help with any area where you tend to lack control; procrastinating, spending or eating too much, not having good financial management, or anything that plagues you. Her writing style is clear to the point. It’s a fun read! Highly recommended.
I’ve been a fan of Dr. Ho for years and was thrilled to see she was writing a book on this topic. She did not disappoint. I highly recommend this book for anyone looking to break their own personal cycle of self-sabotage or as a gift for a loved one who may need some help.
I love self-development and mindset books and this is so much more than that. Dr. Judy Ho delivers all the goodies like simple exercises and techniques to stop self-sabotage the moment it arrives in an awesome and fun way! I truly learned so much, and I am READY to implement all the content!
Self help is not my usual genre. My first thought when I was invited to read this book was..”I can’t add that to my to-do list, it’s already full right now.” That’s the problem, feeling overwhelmed, and spreading yourself so thin that you aren’t able to sit back and enjoy the good stuff! It can become a perpetually exhausting cycle! So I accepted the book, threw it on the top of the to-do list and game changer!
From being your own worst critic to discovering and deactivating your self-sabotage triggers, Dr Judy Ho’s insightful book will help you find order and begin to re-center your life. Stop Self-Sabotage Six Steps to Unlock Your True Motivation, Harness Your Willpower, and Get Out of Your Own Way is an eye- opening must read!
As a sufferer of depression and anxiety, and self doubt, I knew I needed to jump on this tour. I need to see if there was something out there that could help me. Especially when I constantly worry about whether I am doing something good enough, if I should have done something differently, am I good mom, etc. Things that make me go into anxiety mode for overthinking.
Dr. Judy Ho brings us a book that is perfect for those with thoughts like mine. It’s a book that will bring you techniques, suggestions and over all change to help you overcome those negative happenings, to overcome the thoughts of sabotage in your life.
Dr. Judy’s book is amazing. It’s definitely one that is worthy of 4 stars. I recommend this book to all who are struggling with self sabotaging ways, like questioning your actions, wondering if you’ll have enough money for this or enough time for that. It’s the perfect self-help book in my opinion. I look forward to reading more and learning new things to help me improve my life. Well done, Dr. Ho, well done!
*I received a complimentary copy of this book from Publisher and was under no obligation to post a review, positive or negative.*
I highly recommend this book. Dr. Judy is passionate and knowledgeable, and has researched and created an easy to implement plan to stop self-sabotage. It was so enjoyable to read and I have already seen positive changes in my life from practicing what I have learned in this book.
My mentor is amazing!! Dr. Judy’s thought-provoking scientific approach is great. I like that she speaks to relevant research on this topic. The research sets this book apart from other self-help books, and so far it has been very helpful to me in helping my clients change some negative behaviors and habits!
Dr. Judy Ho writes a new self-help book that shows you the ways that you sabotage self. She talks about ways that you can find the triggers for self-sabotage. Once you find these triggers you can hopefully be on the path to fixing them. This is a book based on plenty of research and scientific data. You will take tests and see examples to help you find your triggers. I was very surprised when I took the tests and saw my triggers and behaviors. There are exercises to do that will help you break the cycles of self-sabotage. It will take behavior modification, it will not be a quick or magic cure. This is the book to stop those problematic behaviors once and for all and will help in all aspects of your life from losing weight, to goals that you have set, relationships and work etc. Make sure you have a notebook and pen unless you like to write in your book which I personally don’t. This is the book for you if you are wanting to learn how to break the cycle and how to create a plan to help you meet your goals. I highly recommend this book.
Dr. Judy’s book is so digestible and honestly fun to read. It shares actionable tips on how to stop self-sabotage – but doesn’t make learning this invaluable info feel like a chore AT ALL. She has a really fun way of approaching this topic and she de-stigmatizes the phenomenon, encourages people to work towards change one step at a time, and celebrates you along the way!!
Dr. Judy Ho does a fantastic job at deconstructing the origins of self sabotage and why humans are biologically predisposed to suffer from this habit. And due to her cognitive therapeutic expertise, she’s able to give the reader valuable exercises that target the root of where the issue stems from. Very informative and effective read – I highly recommend it!
We’ve all been there – where we don’t understand why we can’t move forward. We want our lives to be different, we might even set goals and come up with plans, but somehow we keep getting stuck in the same old vicious cycle. Dr. Judy’s scientific, but easy to implement approaches are truly life-changing. You only live once, so why not give this approach a try? I feel more equipped to not only make changes, but also how to bounce back from setbacks. Thank you, Dr. Ho 🙂
As a psychotherapist, I would not hesitate to recommend this to my clients. Dr. Ho backs up her words with years of research, and her knowledge in the field of psychology. This book speaks to the reader in a personable way, and gives them tools to help change their lives.