A NEW YORK TIMES BESTELLER An essential exploration of why and how women’s sexuality works–based on groundbreaking research and brain science–that will radically transform your sex life into one filled with confidence and joy. Researchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a “pink pill” for women to function like Viagra does for men. So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes … men. So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes crystal clear, that pill will never be the answer–but as a result of the research that’s gone into it, scientists in the last few years have learned more about how women’s sexuality works than we ever thought possible, and Come as You Are explains it all.
The first lesson in this essential, transformative book by Dr. Emily Nagoski is that every woman has her own unique sexuality, like a fingerprint, and that women vary more than men in our anatomy, our sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world. So we never need to judge ourselves based on others’ experiences. Because women vary, and that’s normal.
Second lesson: sex happens in a context. And all the complications of everyday life influence the context surrounding a woman’s arousal, desire, and orgasm.
Cutting-edge research across multiple disciplines tells us that the most important factor for women in creating and sustaining a fulfilling sex life, is not what you do in bed or how you do it, but how you feel about it. Which means that stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it. Once you understand these factors, and how to influence them, you can create for yourself better sex and more profound pleasure than you ever thought possible.
And Emily Nagoski can prove it.more
I had high expectations on this book, and it didn’t disapoint me. It was great, extremely helpful, I’m glad to know more and better now, so thank you Emily. Actually what I loved the most was that it’s based on evidence, articles, SCIENCE!.
Thank you for writing a book I’ve been looking for so long.
Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life is a nonfiction, self-help book written by sex educator, researcher, and author Emily Nagoski. It educates about a variety of issues that impact women’s sexuality, and while some of it got quite repetitive in my opinion and I didn’t quite take away as much new …
I highly recommend this…not solely or even mainly for the sexuality insights so much as the advice for handling emotions and stress. Like the “impatient little monitor”: first off, picturing my frustration as a tiny TC in my brain stomping her feet makes this whole thing less overwhelming (same, to a less extent, with the “sleepy hedgehog” model …
Every woman (and man) should read this book! It’s the sex ed class we all should have had. It’s work to get through, but it’s fascinating and worth it. Even if you only read half of it, it has the potential to change your life.