Every Family Has Issues There is no such thing as a perfect family…or an easy family. We all make mistakes that hurt our family members and we’ve all been hurt by those we love. 6 Hidden Behaviors That Destroy Families by Dr. Magdalena Battles addresses the top conflicts that cause relationships to become strained or broken. These hidden behaviors are: * A failure to forgive or apologize * … forgive or apologize
* Criticism
* Gossip
* Deception
* A lack of inclusion
* A failure to accept differences
While every family has issues, what really matters is how we deal with them. Are we working in a way that resolves problems? Or are we allowing them to fester and explode?
The healing in your family can begin with you. It often takes just one person to make the changes needed to make relationships more positive. Dr. Battles provides you with practical tips based on research, biblical principles, and her own observations of what has worked in families–including her own. Here are essential tools to restore the damaged relationships in your life.
Families can function in a way where love and support are practiced daily. It is a process, but the result will be happier lives and more fulfilling relationships.
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MY THOUGHTS ON THIS BOOK
6 Hidden Behaviors that Destroy Families is a book that every single person should read. Whether you are from a dysfunctional family, or a family that seems to get along pretty well, one of these 6 things are lurking around to cause trouble and heartbreaks in families.
In each of the 6 sections in the book, the author explains in simple terms how to identify the problem, what it involves, how it affects families. And really, the way she explains how some of these things start, it made me realize I was guilty and not even realizing it. Take gossip for instance, and we have all gossiped at some time or another. But did you realize that many times it starts by saying something that really isn’t gossip, but as it progresses it crosses the line over into gossip? This is one area I am going to use the book to work on! After the author explains what the issue is, she then talks about how to change it, things to start doing to overcome these bad behaviors. And I love and appreciate that everything is Backed With Scripture. There are Questions For Reflection after each chapter as well as a Chapter Recap, all to help you understand even more.
This book is a great resource for everyone, including Pastors and teachers. What would out churches be like if everyone, including leaders had a copy if this book and used it daily? This would make an excellent Bible study, or study for a Sunday school class. I think you get the idea. In a world that is hurting every way we look, we need a book such as this to bring our families together.
A special thanks to the author/publisher for a copy of this book. I am not required to write a positive review, the opinions here are mine alone. I am disclosing this with my review in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255.
Dr. Magdalena Battles addresses hidden (unknown and/or unidentified) behaviors that arise in many families. Her book, with practical Biblical application and aptly fitting verses, focuses on the difficulties these behaviors cause families.
She acknowledges how complex and multifaceted families are due to the diversity of temperaments, not only in individual families, but also in extended families.
Battles points out how a person can lose the victim mindset by reminding the reader that each person is responsible for their own responses and reactions. A timely reminder as you read the book: many examples show how negative reactions and responses create strife, hurt feelings and elicit undesirable responses.
As we read her book, we are reminded that forgiveness is not for others. On the contrary, it is for ourselves. Battles uses not only Bible verses to explicate the importance of forgiveness, but she also uses scientific evidence to prove that unforgiveness can physically harm our bodies.
Six Hidden Behaviors that Destroy Families is an excellent and perfect resource for anyone. It would make a wonderful gift for couples, from young newlyweds just beginning their married life, all the way to those married for many years. In fact, I believe it would be a great gift for individuals beginning from mid-teens and on into adulthood, too.
I received 6 Hidden Behaviors that Destroy Families from Celebrate Lit. However, I was under no obligation to post a review.
A helpful tool to understand and improve family relationships, this book presents understandable examples of negative and positive behavior among family members, including extended family and violation of trust. The text is easy to digest and relate to. The six behaviors (criticism, gossip, lack of inclusion, deception, refusing to accept differences, and failure to apologize and forgive), which may not be so hidden, are tackled in a vulnerable, honest manner. Forgiveness and healing are also emphasized. Reconciliation takes both parties working together, but the way you approach others and the words you choose make a big difference. The tools provided in this handbook will help individuals to build healthy relationships with others. The principles can be applied to any relationships, not just family ones. The author sounds quite knowledgeable and experienced with the topics she teaches. It could make a good group discussion book too. I appreciate the opportunity to learn from the book. I received a copy from Celebrate Lit. All opinions are my own.
As a wife and mother of four children who are now between the ages of 24 and 17, I know that families take work. As a mother I have made mistakes in the past and there are things I wish I had done differently. Dr, Magdalena Battles does an excellent job of combining Biblical truths with psychological facts to create a book aimed at helping people recognize perfect families do not exist. At the same time, she gives strategies and suggestions for helping families rebuild their lives and create lives where they actually thrive.
The personal examples helped pull me into this book and made me want to keep reading. Ultimately we are all members of some type of family, so I feel everyone can benefit from reading this book.
So if your family is struggling or if you simply desire to improve what your family already is doing well, check out this book for yourself.
I received a complimentary copy of this book from CelebrateLit, this in no way influenced my review. All opinions are my own.
Do you have things that you just sweep under the rug? Oh it’s always been that way they say. Or that’s just the way she is and we just deal with it. But what if those behaviors are things that shouldn’t just be ignored or swept under the rug?
6 Hidden Behaviors that Destroy Families works to show you how to actually recognize and then work through the behaviors that are working to destroy your family. While they’re not truly hidden they are the ones that we tend to ignore or explain away.
I enjoyed all of the personal stories in this book and can definitely relate to several of the hidden behaviors as ones happening within our extended family. Hopefully practising some of these tips is going to help us deal with instead of just continuing to let them go. I can definitely see them destroying our family.
This is a good read that I think everyone should read even if you don’t think there are hidden behaviors in your family.
I have voluntarily reviewed a complimentary copy of this book which I received from Celebrate Lit. All views expressed are only my honest opinion. I was not required to write a positive review nor was I compensated in any other way. All opinions expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the FTC regulations.
Coming from a very dysfunctional family growing up, I could relate to this book in many ways. The author presents a book that gives readers an insight into how we can improve communication with our family. There are some very emotional stories the author shares that allow us to understand how the family can easily be torn apart. Forgiveness is a definite key in moving forward and letting go of bitterness. For years I have held onto bitterness because of the childhood I endured. When I finally was able to forgive I felt for the first time that I was free and at peace.
I liked the chapter on criticism because it is one thing I heard all my life. I was never good enough, not smart enough and would never amount to anything. Words hurt so much more because they last a lifetime. “Insults are used like swords in battle. They pierce the soul and damage a person to their core.” There is constructive criticism that can be helpful when said in love. The author gives great examples throughout the book that is encouraging and helps readers to understand how important a strong family is.
As the title implies the author shares key behaviors that if not addressed can destroy a family. I can’t count the times I felt left out when going anywhere with my family. I was shunned and verbally abused by brothers and parents. I think this book would be a great resource for every parent. It would benefit families and give them directions of how to overcome obstacles that cause division. The author includes questions at the end of each chapter that I found very resourceful. I really enjoyed the checklist the author provides of ways to include all family members. When we work together we are stronger .
I received a copy of this book from Celebrate Lit. The review is my own opinion.